Marriage o.O

"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open."


There are some people that push off marriage for ever because they love being single. There are some people that push off marriage because they haven't found the right person. There are some people that want to get married, but they haven't found the right person. There are some people that want to get married and have found the right person. Where are you? What is your stance?


Many people think that they are ready to get married, but after a few discussions over the past few weeks, I have a list of things that you should think about before saying that you're truly ready.

1. Scroll up & look at that quote again. Are you willing to meet someone halfway? It's really not that easy to do that. Think about this: you have done things in a certain way for how many years now...18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25...? Longer than that? That's a damn long time to be set in your own ways. And then one day, you have to change your ways. The sink's never empty anymore. The toilet paper rolls up instead of down. The bed is never made. The toothpaste is dried up around the edges. The milk is one row lower than usual. The cake you saved for yourself for tomorrow is not there anymore. Although you have to wake up at 9am, someone's alarm rings at 6am. And then they press the snooze button. You're trying to get work done while someone's watching TV. So much changes! Are you ready to be okay with it all? To just accept it?
2. Are you like my friends and I, in the sense that you sometimes (or more often) just snap at your parents and/or sibling(s)? Are you afraid that you'll snap at your spouse's family? I'm not sure how you feel, but let me be perfectly honest. I don't think that's okay at all. They are your spouse's family after all. You have to respect them more than you respect anyone else. You have to love them like your own family, so that they love you like their own child/sister/brother/etc. I think it's so important that you can control your emotions before you get married. 
3. So now what about getting angry at your spouse? To have an honest and open relationship, you have to show your anger at times. But it's so important that you're able to talk things out. Imagine if you let somethings build up for a long time and then you just explode one day...not only will that be painful, but it will cause harm. Someone will get hurt. 
4. If you find someone that your parents don't approve of, what will you do? I think it's important to think about this beforehand, so that you don't do something you'll regret one day. Imagine if you eloped because you were so in love, ruined your relationship with your family, and then find out a year later that your spouse is cheating on you. Who will be there for you then? Your family. I'm not saying to ditch the person you love, but I'm saying to stop and think it out. Don't let yourself get married until everyone is happy, even if that takes a few years...
5. Are you used to keeping things from people? Remember that an honest relationship will be the best relationship. Being honest doesn't always come naturally...start working on it now.
6. Are you Daddy's little princess? Or Momma's little boy? Then why are you in a rush to get married? Once you're married, you won't ever be able to go back to being this. You will be an adult in a relationship with someone. And if you ARE Daddy's little princess of Momma's little boy after you're married, then I'm almost 100% sure that your spouse isn't happy about it. Ask them.
7. Think about why you're getting married. Is it because you're afraid no one will accept you? That's not the right reason. Is it because someone is rushing you? That's not the right reason. Is it because you're afraid of losing who you have? That's not the right reason. Is it because life is boring and you want something new? That's not the right reason. Is it because you're truly, madly & deeply in love? Bingo, you got it. That's the reason. Go for it & congrats!

I guess that's not really a lot, but if you think about it...these things are sooo incredibly important. If you're not in love and you get married, then you won't be happy. I'm so sure of that. 

My friend asked me what would have happened if these two people that I know (who are so cute and so in love) did not end up getting married after fighting for their love. My response was short, but looking back, I like it so I'll share with you.

"Those beautiful smiles, they wouldn't be so beautiful and big.

Those warm hearts...wouldn't be so warm.

The love, wouldn't really exist and spread.

And their lives? They would have been full of regret."

So don't let that happen to you. 

Get married because you want to get married.

Get married because you love the other person.

So long <3