Stepmom 1

I recently saw the movie Stepmom again and jotted down a few scenes (this being one) that really struck me.
 
Dad "We love each other...We want to share our lives togethe.r"
Daughter "But you had a life with Mommy"
Dad "But we didn't get along...we argued a lot. That wouldn't be fair to you kids if we always argued."
Son "Anna and I argue all the time, can I move out?"
Dad "Noo you're brother and sister, you can't do that."
Daughter "But you were husband and wife..."

Wow, just look at that. What are some important relationships in our lives?

• Parent/child
• Siblings
• Relatives (Aunts, Uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc.)
• Spouses
• Friends
• Neighbors
• Employer/employee
• Co-workers

So now look at the list and pick out which ones you can easily give up and which you are in for life. It's pretty simple to me, although I know that values can be different. Personally, I say that parent/child, siblings, relatives (sometimes unfortunately) and spouses are relationships that you are in for life. [Friendship is controversial because some friends you know you'll have forever while others are just kind of there for the time being, but that's another idea for another day.] I understand that marriage is looked upon differently now. But let's take a step back.

Once upon a time, marriage was regarded as a binding relationship between two people who would embark on a journey together through thick and thin. Today, it's not such a big deal. People get married and divorced like it is nothing; therefore, that relationship is not taken to be so seriously. But enough about that, here's what I think.

Marriage is permanent. Nothing [absolutely nothing] should come in between two people that are together. You have to know that there are differences before you get married, and you have to be ready to accept changes afterwards. Gosh, I could go on forever about this but think about these simple things before you get married: can you deal with the dishes being in the sink? Do you need your bed to be made every morning? Will you get pissed if you have to take out the trash every day? ...well, if these things are gonna bother you in the future, then there's something wrong with you. There's no such thing as perfect! Everyone has to give and take when it comes to a lifelong relationship because if we make the little things matter, then we won't be able to stick together to work through the bigger issues.

(I haven't written in awhile, so there's absolutely no flow-I apologize.)

Back to the quote for a second, is it okay for this Father to send such a message to his children?! He is literally telling his children that a marriage is not a permanent relationship; therefore, they will not take it so seriously. If we start telling everyone this when they are young, then obviously marriage won't be so important in the future! I mean come on, it's already losing value. How much worse can we make it?!

I don't know what you think, but I know that even if I am afraid of any and every kind of commitment, I will not be able to end my marriage under any circumstances. And I think that before you do become committed to someone, you should really take out time to think about all of the details even if everything seems perfect in the beginning. Sigh. Your thoughts on marriage?

So long <3